Is it fair to measure tragedy?
The day after the Paris terror attacks, I needed to be quiet and listen to how the story was unfolding and how feelings were unfolding throughout the world. As the death toll kept rising and the waves of sadness continued to surge through the world, I felt a collective sense of sadness, fear, anger, empathy and so much more. Though I’ve always had a love affair with Paris since my teens, often times threatening to give up America for a cinematic life in Paris, I’ve never lived there nor do I have any close family or friends there. Still, like most, I was deeply saddened and felt empathy for the people of Paris. As more voices started to shout, countries sent their condolences and social media became engulfed with Paris, another feeling began to arise. I felt I was being unfair to all the other parts of the world (South Sudan, Syria, Beirut, Ukraine, Afghanistan, Nigeria, Liberia and so many more) that suffer in silence, without the world rising up in solidarity. Why does one group of people’s suffering seem to weigh more on our hearts than others? Is it fair?
Do we need love more than prayer in these moments?
This thought arose after reading my friend Mathew Whittman’s Facebook page in which he urged us to consider the fact that in the commission of these crimes in Paris and across the world, many prayers were answered. WOW. I honestly was shocked when I read that. I mean we all know that many acts of war and terrorism, especially suicide bombings, are connected to religious beliefs but I’ve never really thought that their success were related to their prayers being answered. This really created a deep space inside me to think about prayer and it’s association with terror. In that space I started to feel that Love is what we need to cultivate at this time. Love for ourselves and love for others is where most will find peace.
What action will you take to help, heal and love the world?
Will you acknowledge the other parts of the world that are suffering, not only the power houses, and take action. Will you take in a refugee in your home if you are in Berlin? Will you give blood at a blood bank if you are in Paris? Will you help empower young women in different parts of the world that are being violated and silenced by donating money or time? Will you sponsor a survivor of war in South Sudan? Will you make a conscious effort to befriend another person outside of your beliefs, race or economic circle? Will you allow others the freedom to voice their opinion and feelings without returning anger? Or will you simply begin to cultivate deep love for yourself and others? There are many ways to help and to heal the world in the midst of war, terror and poverty. Although sharing thoughts and opposing feelings on social media helps raises more questions and momentarily arises collective emotions which makes us feel connected to our fellow human beings, we must actually take more loving and impactful actions if we really want to see things change. Anthony Jeselnik nailed it in this video. I challenge you to make one impactful action this month.